10 Ways You're Making Your Life Harder Than It Has To Be

The mystery of life is not a problem to be solved but a reality to be experienced.1. You ascribe intent. Another driver cut you off. Your friend never texted you back. Your co-worker went to lunch without you. Everyone can find a reason to be offended on a steady basis. So what caused you to be offended? You assigned bad intent to these otherwise innocuous actions. You took it as a personal affront, a slap in the face. Happy people do not do this. They dont take things personally. They don't ascribe intent to the unintentional actions of others. 2. You're the star of your own movie. It is little wonder that you believe the world revolves around you. After all, you have been at the very center of every experience you have ever had. You are the star of your own movie. You wrote the script. You know how you want it to unfold. You even know how you want it to end. Unfortunately you forgot to give your script to anyone else. As a result, people are unaware of the role they are supposed to play. Then, when they screw up their lines, or fail to fall in love with you or dont give you a promotion, your movie is ruined. Lose your script. Let someone else star once in awhile. Welcome new characters. Embrace plot twists. 3. You fast forward to apocalypse. I have a bad habit of fast forwarding everything to its worst possible outcome and being pleasantly surprised when the result is marginally better than utter disaster or jail time. My mind unnecessarily wrestles with events that arent even remotely likely. My sore throat is cancer. My lost drivers license fell into the hands of an al-Qaeda operative who will wipe out my savings account. Negativity only breeds more negativity. It is a happiness riptide. It will carry you away from shore and if you dont swim away from it, will pull you under. 4. You have unrealistic and/or un-communicated expectations. Among their many shortcomings of your family and friends is the harsh reality that they cannot read your mind or anticipate your whims. Did your boyfriend forget the six and a half month anniversary of your first movie date? Did your girlfriend refuse to call at an appointed hour? Did your friend fail to fawn over your tribal tattoo? Unmet expectations will be at the root of most of your unhappiness in life. Minimize your expectations, maximize your joy. 5. You are waiting for a sign. I have a friend who wont make a decision without receiving a sign. I suppose she is waiting on a trumpeted announcement from God. She is constantly paralyzed by a divinity that is either heavily obscured or frustratingly tardy. Im not disavowing that fate or a higher power plays a role in our lives. Im just saying that it is better to help shape fate than be governed by it. 6. You don't take risks. Two words: Live boldly. Every single time you are offered a choice that involves greater risk, take it. You will lose on many of them but when you add them up at the end of your life youll be glad you did. 7. You constantly compare your life to others. A few years ago I was invited to a nice party at a big warehouse downtown. I was enjoying the smooth jazz, box wine and crustless sandwiches. What more could a guy want? Later in the evening I noticed a steady parade of well-heeled people slide past and disappear into another room. I peeked and saw a large party with beautiful revelers dancing and carrying on like Bacchus. Suddenly my gig wasnt as fun as it had been all because it didnt appear to measure up to the party next door- a party I didnt even know existed until just moments before. I do this frequently. Those people are having more fun. Mary has a bigger boat. Craig gets all the lucky breaks. Ted has more money. John is better looking. Stop it. Always remember what Teddy Roosevelt said: "Comparison is the thief of joy." 8. You let other people steal from you. If you had a million dollars in cash under your mattress, you would check it regularly and take precautions to insure it is safe. The one possession you have that is more important than money is time. But you dont do anything to protect it. In fact you willingly give it to thieves. Selfish people, egotistical people, negative people, people who wont shut up. Treat your time like Fort Knox. Guard it closely and give it only to those who deserve and respect it. 9. You can't/won't let go. These are getting a little harder arent they? Thats because sometimes you have to work at happiness. Some hurdles are too difficult to clear by simply adjusting your point of view or adopting a positive mindset. Do you need to forgive someone? Do you need to turn your back on a failed relationship? Do you need to come to terms with the death of a loved one? Life is full of loss. But, in a sense, real happiness would not be possible without it. It helps us appreciate and savor the things that really matter. It helps us grow. It can help us help others grow. Closure is a word for people who have never really suffered. Theres no such thing. Just try to manage your loss. Put it in perspective. You will always have some regret and doubt about your loss. You may always second guess yourself. If only you had said this, or tried that. Youre not alone. Find someone who understands and talk to that person. Reach out for support. If all else fails, try #10 below. 10. You don't give back. One way to deal with loss is to immerse yourself in doing good. Volunteer. Get involved in life. It doesn't even have to be a big, structured thing. Say a kind word. Encourage someone. Pay a visit to someone who is alone. Get away from your self-absorption. When it comes down to it, there are two types of people in this world. There are givers and there are takers. Givers are happy. Takers are miserable. What are you?

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Posted on: 25 December 2016 | 5:06 am

It's Time To Start Living The Life You've Only Imagined

It's time to start living the life you've only imagined.In order to live a life in which we are truly satisfied one of the most important things that we can do is to live life how we imagined it to be. This may mean that we aim to work a job or in a career field that we have always wanted to work in, or maybe raise a family even though the circumstances that we may be presently living in wont seem to allow this. We have to be willing to go after our dreams. It is easy to have dreams and aspirations, but you will not truly have anything until you are willing to pursue these with everything that you have inside of you. Doing so will not always be the easiest thing or the most convenient option for you, and the ones that you love, but it will be well worth the hardships that you encountered in the end when you find yourself living your dreams. As the quote says it is time to start living the life youve only imagined, not the life that anyone else has imagined for you, and not the life that you just are happening to live because of your situation and your circumstances.

Posted on: 19 December 2016 | 7:47 am

Whatever Happens, Happens

Whatever happens, happens.To a degree, in our lives as each moment passes and different circumstances come to past, we have to realize that after they happen, there is no way to change them. We must take life for what it is, a series of unpredictable events ultimately out of our control. Sure there are ways to prepare for life, and understandably doing things such as setting goals and making a game plan for your life will take you to new heights, even to places you would of never imagined being. But life is too, very unpredictable. We never know when our lives will end, and we cant stop things from happening a lot of the time such as accidents, and other fortunate and unfortunate events that life will throw at you. So we must deal with our lives as they come to us, preparing for the future, with the outlook on life that not everything will go as planned, we must adapt to survive, and thrive. We must also be willing to move on from our pasts whether good or bad in order to keep up our lifes journey towards being happy!

Posted on: 12 December 2016 | 5:01 am

The Trick To Forgetting Someone

No matter what I do I always forget to forget you.Doesn't it seem as though we all have that special someone who may have left from our lives months to years ago but still seem to stay on our mind. If you don't have someone in your life as such right now, you more than likely will, and this is just a normal part of existence on this earth. The trick to forgetting someone you loved deeply is that there is no trick to forgetting them. The main thing that we must do is remember the good times that we shared with this person, and to wish them the best instead of holding any ill will towards them (if there is any at all). The lessons we learned from dealing with this person are also imperative to remember. Most importantly don't waste time regretting, keep in mind that they are in your past for a reason, and to keep looking towards the future.

Posted on: 6 December 2016 | 5:08 am

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Posted on: 24 November 2016 | 3:44 am

Don't Fall For Words

Don't fall for words.A lot of times it is best for us to judge the character of a person by their actions instead of just by their words and what they want you to believe. When we look at the actions of a person we look at the real heart of them, because usually the actions a person commits are the actions closest to their hearts. A person is going to get done what they want to get done, therefore making their actions a good indicator of what they find important in life. To stay away from gullible decisions we must be skeptical at times, and try to keep our guard up until we feel comfortable with taking it down. A lot of times we know in our gut when something is too good to be true, and we should follow this basic instinct to ensure that we dont get duped or taken advantage of!

Posted on: 22 November 2016 | 5:24 am

Never Say Never

There's gonna be times when people tell you that you can't live your dreams. Tell them... Never say never.One of the most beautiful structures in the World, was the realized dream of the an engineer in his mid 50s by the name of Alexandre-Gustave Eiffel. As the winner of a contest for a structure in France to commemorate 100 years of freedom, Eiffels dream met many obstacles including opposition from those who didnt want a structure of the Eiffel Tower to dominate the skyline and from those who doubted that this structure could even practically be built. Eiffel is a classic example of a dreamer who reached for his dreams and was able to accomplish them despite the obstacles that stood in his way. Ask yourself if you are dreaming or just living, and make sure that if you arent dreaming that you start NOW! It is never too late or too soon to start dreaming, and to try to accomplish these dreams, and make sure you arent letting anything stand in your way.

Posted on: 21 November 2016 | 5:04 am

Everybody Hurts, You're Not Alone

Everybody hurts, you're not alone.When we experience times of difficulty and stress sometimes when no one is around to experience our pain with us, and even sometimes when others are there for us we still feel alone. I know that going through pain and grief is a hard thing to do, and it is especially hard to do by yourself.

Posted on: 17 November 2016 | 5:36 am

Some Pursue Happiness While Others Create It

Some pursue happiness; others create it.When we think of happiness it is important to think of it as an architect does a building. First an architect sets a plan, usually approved by some kind of board or city council, and then they get to work creating their plan, tackling challenges and obstacles presented to them as they move along. This is symbolic of how we can create happiness for ourselves. We must make a blueprint or goal for ourselves, get it approved by the man upstairs, then go about trying to reach this goal without letting any challenge or circumstance get in our way. As you may have noticed architects usually dont just build one building for their lifes work, they build building after building. The famous architect Frank Lloyd Wright stated when asked what he thought his best piece of architecture was His next one. Meaning that we shouldnt just be content with the happiness we have created in the past, to maintain our happiness we must keep looking forward to creating it!

Posted on: 16 November 2016 | 3:36 am